Bad things happen to everyone, good girls too (1)

Holding the glass of water in her right hand and the bag of pills in her left, she read through the suicide note she had written only a few minutes prior. As she walked slowly to the bed, she wished with all her might that no one would get home before she died. ********* Nike was eight the first and last time she’d gone on holiday to the US with her family. She’d had so much fun she really...

Learning to communicate: When Your Spouse Won't Leave You Alone (3)

If you're feeling nagged to talk, you're probably feeling overwhelmed, too. Avoidance may seem like the only solution for relief. This relief is only temporary, though, because it leaves your spouse without resolution—and often determined to try harder. You may begin to feel like a trapped victim, at the mercy of your spouse's "need to talk." Worse yet, you may anticipate another session of...

AN EXCELLENT WIFE IS FORGED, NOT FOUND

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. – Proverbs 31:10 I often believe my husband has not found an excellent wife. When he tells me I have been short with him lately, overreacting and snapping unnecessarily, I am discouraged at my lack of excellence. Impatience and disrespect have brought embarrassment to him on several occasions. My task-oriented, performance-driven...

Learning to communicate: When Your Spouse Won't Talk (2)

Relating to each other is not a technique we're born with. It's like a muscle that needs to be developed over time—and massaged when it hurts. If you have a spouse who doesn't want to talk as much as you do, the following suggestions may help: Read about the differences between men and women, especially as they relate to communication. These differences are a mystery to almost everyone except...

Learning to Communicate: Miscommunication (1)

A Non Sequitur cartoon by Wiley Miller pictures a couple in bed. The wife has put down the book she's been reading and said something to her husband. Here's what he heard: "Time for the annual review of how you make my life a living nightmare." All she actually said, though, is, "Sweetie, let's talk about us."                    ...

Learning to Communicate

Communication, especially about my feelings is something that has never really come easy to me. This has affected the people in my life in different ways; some have been patient with me, while others have reacted in harsh ways that has hurt us both. I’m not perfect and I don’t wish I was (then I wouldn’t ‘need’ Christ), and if like me you have recognised your imperfection and want to take steps...

Psalm 40

Yesterday, driving home from church, tuned in to my favourite radio station and hoping to catch a ‘T.D Jakes’  ‘The Potters house’ message, I listened to the morning call in show to pass the time till ‘The Potters House’ message came on.  I think a lady had just gotten off the phone. It was her birthday and she’d been married for a long time (didn’t catch how long exactly), and had been...

The Power of a praying Woman

I’ve been putting off writing this particular post- well not ‘this’ one in particular, just one on prayer. I don’t know if any of you have ever felt like prayer was....well a bit difficult. For me, it was (and in some ways still is) - in the sense that I often found it hard to keep the momentum going. When I got into it, I really got into it, but when I wasn’t in that zone, it was definitely a big...